We are all flawed…
each, and every one of us. Our imperfections are what make us human, interesting, whole, perfect, and beautiful.
Somewhere along the way we were made to feel less than, not enough, incomplete. And since then, we have been trying to change ourselves until we become what pleases others.
Have you ever been initially attracted to someone because of their appearance and then lost interest because of unattractive qualities?
Or became interested in someone as a person, not into their looks at all, and then later realized an attraction?
Looks aren’t the be-all and end-all. Good and bad people can be physically attractive. Society tends to associate beauty with innate goodness and success. This is evident when we are shocked by an attractive person’s wrongdoing that has come to light.
Conversely, we are impressed when a not so good-looking person is successful. Or has a special talent like a great singing voice, or a beautiful partner.
What Is a Perfect 10 Anyway?
What is a perfect 10 anyway? A ten is used when perfection is the goal of an image. A picture. We don’t see the flaws and imperfections smoothed away, cropped, erased. We just see the result of this deception which leaves us feeling less than.
The post photo shoot routine of removing the makeup, hair extensions, eye lashes, padded bras, and body shapers is hidden from us to keep up the fantasy.
When we value this presentation of what perfection is supposed to be it is because it gives us something to aspire to. Alas it is unachievable. And then when we fail to match up, we feel even worse about ourselves and unknowingly have diminished our own worth.
Because of this skewed image of ourselves we seek out people that we believe are better than we feel we are. We don’t realize that the people we are putting on pedestals most likely feel exactly as you do because they know that the “perfect” person that they represent is not who they really are.
What About the Rest of Us?
Beautiful people are nice to look at and admire for their fashion sense, makeup skills, or in the context of art. However, beauty is subjective, beauty is preference, beauty is love. One person may think I’m ugly and another that I’m the most beautiful women in the world.
When did beauty become a narrow and flawed guideline that few can meet, and the world has deemed of most value?
What about the rest of us?
Why strive for the unrealistic and non-existent ideal of physical perfection?
The truth is that aesthetically beautiful people are not necessarily beautiful people and vice versa.
“Sometimes a spiritual connection makes someone that much more attractive.”
Max Joseph, Catfish: The TV Show, 09/24/2013
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