Princess Pretty Average

Love, respect, cherish, nurture, encourage, value, and comfort yourself first. Those that truly love you will love you for it.

The Journey Continues

Here my journey of self-discovery continues.

Princess Pretty Average, was about my marriage and how I learned to find myself within it. Here, you’ll find my thoughts and insights on life as an individual, because although marriage makes you a couple, you are still two individual people sharing space in your home, mind and body.

My hope is simply to inspire.

  • Post #1: Status: Solo
    Self-reflection, self-respect, self-love, and self-improvement are all solo journeys. No one can know your mind and your heart the way that you can and should.
  • Post #2: Legacy
    Everybody behaves a little differently around different people and in different environments, but who you are should always rise to the surface.
  • Post #3: Words and Actions Please
    Actions that demonstrate our words and words that are validated with acts are like the moon and the stars, sand and the shore, flowers, and bees, each one is a beautiful mystery, but together they are magic.
  • Post #4: Soap Opera Syndrome
    There is only one way to find out if your heart will be safe in someone else’s hands, if your words will be held tenderly, if your well-being is just as important to them as it is to you, and that is to speak.
  • Post #5: Communication Vs. Connection
    Connection happens when what I’m saying makes you feel as if I’m revealing your heart. When what you are saying feels so familiar to me it’s as if we have known each other our whole lives.
  • Post #6: Trust
    Trusting your own judgment in people comes from practicing listening to your inner voice (intuition) being the person that you wish in others (trustworthiness) and honoring your feelings (self-respect).
  • Post #7: What’s Holding You Back?
    There are a million others just like me in the world. The unknown, invisible, and anonymous who take pencil to paper or sit at their computers every day to spill their hearts, chronicle their thoughts, give a piece of themselves to the space around them in the hopes of helping.
  • Post #8: Creating Your Day, One Day At a Time
    But I didn’t want to be angry on that day. It would take too much energy to hold on to it and I had things to do. I wanted to feel the happiness that I felt before the anger came. Where did that happy person go?
  • Post #9: Sharing
    It takes a massive amount of bravery to share your heart because you can only control if and what you share, once it’s shared there’s no turning back. And you can’t control if what you shared will be dismissed, criticized, or embraced and reciprocated.
  • Post #10: Welcome Back
    Helping others is a trapeze act where everything that is required of you is at either end, with you flying through the air from side to side to tend, to provide, to aid. And you are the net.
  • Post #11: Life Is Like a Seesaw
    Wherever you are, up or down, time will go on and your life will change. Enjoy the good and take solace when it’s not so good because it will be again, eventually.
  • Post #12: Gravity
    I’ve always had a job but a couple of years ago I had to leave my job for health reasons. I love being at home, however, the mind set here is that nothing short of a paycheck is of any value. So, housework, errands, meal prep, managing the household finances, putting out everyone else’s fires etc., apparently has no value.
  • Post #13: Getting Organized
    Let go of all the extra stuff that has become outdated, dusty, and just taking up valuable space. It takes organization to live your own life, tell your own story, write your own history.
  • Post #14: Jumping, Metaphorically
    The unknown is filled with many possibilities that range from success to lost in the desert. And the idea of where we might land terrifies us.
  • Post #15: In a Nutshell
    Every day I try to…choose joy, remain present, be positive, forgive, be loving, have compassion, speak kindly, practice gratitude, help others, and every day I fail just a little bit.
  • Post #16: Body and Soul
    The quality of our lives is affected by this knowledge that our body and our soul are separate because each one requires the other.
  • Post #17: Just Do
    But here’s the thing, we’ve all done that, we all do it, in fact it’s what all humans tend to do. The difference between those that procrastinate and those that don’t is that the latter fight the distractions and negative self-talk and still manage to DO.
  • Post #18: Signs or the Frequency Illusion?
    Although I understand that what I’m becoming aware of when connecting with the outside world is the Frequency Illusion, because that is currently my world. I’d like to believe that it serves as confirmation that I’m right where I should be.
  • Post #19 Thoughts On Aging
    I’ve been having… an existential crisis for quite some time now, Lol, trying to figure out where I fit in at this time of my life. I suspect the key to life is super simple and we make it super difficult. And I think this is because we live in our minds first and then… Read more: Post #19 Thoughts On Aging
  • Post #20: Generational Mediocracy
    Everything I was taught growing up was braided into my DNA. Even in the face of common sense and logic, it will always be a part of who I am
  • Post #21: Looking Back Because Why Not
    Was holding on to my pain a way to honor and love myself by always acknowledging it and giving it importance?
  • Post #22: Clear Your Space, Clear Your Mind
    Resist the urge to fill up a visually empty room, likewise an empty mind. Possibility can only develop where there is space.
  • Post#23: Every Day Is a Chance to Begin Again
    Every day, is a chance to do your best. You can’t do that if you are letting your past call the shots right under your nose. Let self-awareness reveal the hidden players in your life so that you can take back today.
  • Post #24: Whether You Want It or Not, You Need It
    Not only do others take notice when you want them, but don’t need them, you realize that not needing someone gives you the power to be selective when choosing who is around you. Self-sufficiency, independence, and confidence are attractive, and powerful.
  • Post#25: When All Of Your Progress Goes Out the Window
    So, here you are, succeeding, speaking your mind, standing your ground, feeling like you when suddenly, the past says, “don’t forget about me,” and you fall.
  • Post #26: The Status Quo
    I will speak for myself when I say that a person should be or become what they are looking for. Your person, or the people, that you hang out with will reflect what you believe is your value and self-worth within this dynamic. Bottom line.
  • Post #27: Beginning Your Day With Intention
    slightly. Going through your day as your authentic self is much better than leaving your emotional state to your past, your pain, or things outside of your control.
  • Post #28: What Is Your Subconscious Telling You?
    I myself have taken my past experiences and spread them out like a blanket to examine every thread. What I was unaware of was that the messages that came with the experiences were hiding in the folds.
  • Post #29: Where Did the Time Go?
    Being your authentic self means not allowing your fictional self to take the lead in real life because you are afraid to speak, walk in, demonstrate, and advocate, your own truth…consistently.
  • Post#30: The Only Constant in Life Is Change
    When you own a truck, everybody wants to borrow it to move anything and everything. When you have a big house, with an extra room or two, everybody wants to move in or use the rooms like a free Airbnb. Not to mention to celebrate all holidays and birthday parties at your house.
  • Post #31: Time Management
    It’s not how much time you have that is important as it is what you do with the time that you have.
  • Post #32: When You’ve Finished the Self-Help Book
    The Power of Now is like mindfulness 2.0. By observing yourself and your thoughts when in a negative or painful mindset you disconnect with the mind so fully that you are just being.
  • Post #33: Maybe I Was Listening After All
    Living in the Now is like anything else. You practice until it becomes, not what you do, but a way of life.
  • Post #34: Life
    And why are we so blind to ourselves? We instantly recognize stuck body language, words, and actions in others. Yet we cannot see it in our own behaviors.
  • Post #35: Life Cycles
    Cycles in life are circular. There cannot be a beginning without an end. And take heart when there is an ending because a new beginning is on the way.
  • Post #36: Surrendering
    Being in the moment is choosing peace and removing anything or anyone that does not supplement that peace, or at the very least leaves it alone.
  • Post #37: Awareness Check
    Love is not something to be searched for. Love is an epiphany you have that the love that you want, and need was in you all along.
  • Post #38: The Games We Play
    I know all that matters is that I have always been in possession of my love.
  • Post #39: Downsizing
    Whatever comes I will face with a smile, because kids look to your face to measure how you feel about them and in turn how they should feel about themselves. With positivity, because they mimic how you approach life. And with love, because they will remember this maybe not with their heads but with their hearts for sure.
  • Post #40: Following My Own Advice
    The losses in my life have taught me to fight, to trust my inner voice, and that I have the power to save myself, if I would just get out of my own way.
  • Post #41: Checking In
    Knowing oneself is a process of laying bricks one at a time until you become a sturdy, strong, and impenetrable wall that’s purpose is to enforce your boundaries and keep you safe. The beautiful thing is that to the ones who are worthy of your love there is no wall.
  • Post #42: Complaining
    Not everyone is going to behave the way that you think is best. And they shouldn’t. Everybody should just do what they think, and feel is best for themselves. This does not include breaking the law or hurting anyone else of course. Live and let live.
  • Post #43: My Introverted Self
    I grew up being criticized for being quiet, preferring to be in my room or staying home to socializing. I felt ashamed to be me. Embarrassed because according to my parents I wasn’t friendly enough.
  • Post #44: Being an Example
    Regardless of the stage we are at in our lives, our age, or background positive examples from our closest friends to complete strangers are what keeps hope alive that most of us are trying to make our planet a better place by these small acts.
  • Post #45: Is It Garbage Day Again?!
    When I was a kid, I had no concept of time. I just was. Now that I am a little bit older, wink wink, time is all there is.
  • Post #46: Why Can’t We Be Friends?
    At first thought I think that being a friend to myself will provide a better foundation to any potential platonic relationship with him. But if I’m being a good friend to myself, I would say that if after thirty some years it didn’t happen, it never will.
  • Post #47: Love and What You Believe
    Accept what you are not and understand that you are still worthy, you are still good enough, and beautiful in your own unique way because of what and who you are.
  • Post #48: Preparing for the Tornado
    I must remind myself that this is all temporary. Something that I will need to learn to navigate with the most positivity I can muster. I am effectively their parent. It will help all of us if I show them that I am human too. I won’t abandon myself again.
  • Post #49: Real Talk (about watching my grand kids)
    It is not your obligation to make sure everyone understands where you are coming from. Your life is your life. Period.
  • Post #50: When the Tables Are Turned
    You cut them off because the love you have for yourself restored your vision. The self-respect you carry yourself with keeps you warm at night. The space that you have reclaimed as your own renders them superfluous.
  • Post #51: Going With the Flow
    When things are good in our lives we don’t recognize it as change. We see it as us making it to the finish line. Achieving our goals, making our dreams come true, finally receiving the rewards of our hard work.
  • Post #52: The Practice of Staying Present Is a Lifetime Class
    When you think about it, I mean, really get to the bottom of it, feelings, emotions, losing control, is really a big part of a person’s life. There is no way around it. The key is to not take it all too seriously. We’re all just here to learn.