Christmas is upon us…
and the new year is just around the corner. The holidays are almost over. I will drink to that! Unfortunately, whether you like the holidays or not, having a family will oblige you to participate. Maybe even choose you as host.
I lucked out. Christmas was going to be at my house. Gross. Sorry, I couldn’t resist. Thankfully, my daughter offered her home. Yay! She has a one-year-old and keeping tabs on him is much easier in her home.
Hallelujah, my Christmas shopping is done. All that is left to do is decide on a side or desert to bring for the feast and then I’m free to go back to my cave and think, Lol.
Inner Compass
I can’t believe how quickly 2024 went by!
One thing I’ve learned this year is that one’s inner compass is what determines not only your choices in life but what or whom you choose to focus on.
If you are so concerned about another’s actions or decisions in a way that you feel do not measure up to your standards or what you would do in their position, in other words the right way is a waste of your and their time. Which is a decision.
Vicious circle and all.
So, if you are struggling with confidence and those negative thoughts are swirling around your head, presenting yourself to others is manageable, because you can fake it to make it.
However, holding negative thoughts or opinions about other people is not as easy to hide as you would think. Your choice of words may be pleasant, supportive, or encouraging, but your actions will reveal what you truly feel. Your actions being facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language.
Most people give the benefit of the doubt when words and actions don’t jive. However, you will be found out by anyone that is paying even a little bit of attention.
Thoughts Are Tricky
Thoughts are tricky, they never let you forget what your challenges are.
No one is monitoring them, correcting the negative ones, or scolding you when they drop in unexpectedly and/or inappropriately.
Stop being polite to yourself. Shut down the negativity with a little self tough-love and continue on this new path. Let those thoughts and judgments pass buy like clouds in the sky.
The most important boundary you’ll ever construct is in your mind. How you carry yourself then is a manifestation of that boundary.
Focus on you and your own thoughts.
When a negative thought about someone else creeps in stop yourself immediately. Bring the focus back to what those thoughts are saying about you.
Let your thoughts keep you walking the line. Positive thoughts and a positive outlook are a work in progress. Obviously, you need improvements if you are worried about someone else.
Spend your energy on getting your head right. Worry about what you are saying/not saying or doing/not doing.
Mind your business.
“Before you take another step, step back into yourself. If you can govern yourself and be your own master, yours is the whole wide world and everything within it.”
Paul Fleming
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